Being in a band is just like any other relationship that you have been in. It has its ups and downs. It has its good moments, bad moments and down right terrible moments. The reason it can feel like a relationship is because when you are playing, you’re putting your heart and soul into it. You want to watch the band grow and succeed. You want to see your band make it through the tests of time. When is enough, enough and when is it time to quit your band?
A feeling that we sometimes brush off is when we feel disconnected from the band. You have trouble being creative. You have to force yourself to go to practice. You aren’t really enjoying yourself on stage playing the songs. You’re there, and nothing may be wrong in the band, but your heart is just not in it anymore. When this happens, it may be time to say, “It’s not you, it’s me.” And break up with your band.
No one likes drama. When you are in a band you are dealing with more than on personality all of the time. In any relationship, you aren’t always going to agree on everything and that is okay. Some bands battle it out more than others. It’s not good for anyone. When the drama starts to ruin your vibe, it is time to move on. It will absolutely effect your music. If you can’t talk things out, it’s time to quit.
Okay, so you’re working two jobs, going to school and trying to squeeze band practice and shows into your schedule. You have way too much on your plate. You obviously need to work to pay your bills, and we will assume you are getting an education to get a better job, but you can’t do everything and you can’t do it all well. There will always only be 24 hours in a day. How thin can you stretch yourself? Consider that and wait to join a band when you schedule eases. You aren’t being fair to you or your band at this point. It’s time for you to go.
When you and your band mates have different goals and lifestyles it will make it very difficult to have any sort of future together. If you want to aim for the major record labels and tour, but your band is fine just playing local clubs, No one is going to support your dreams. You’ll be fighting for something alone and that sucks. Your band needs to always be on the same page when it comes to your career. Same thing goes for lifestyle. If you are a one beer kind of a musician and your bass player is hammered all of the time, you’re going to get annoyed at the lack of commitment that person has. They are seeing the band as more of a party life style as opposed to a career. That person is ruining your chance for success. Again, it may be time to quit your current band and move on to a new one.